For some women become a stay-at-home mom is not easy, it is challenging and sometime they just don’t wanna leave their wonderful career that they had before. Become one of them is not a nightmare, we just need to adjust some parts that we were not used to having it in our life before. So, what is it like to be a stay-at-home mom? This is my story.

Become a stay-at-home mom is fun

What else you want when you can be at home and have no dateline to rush? The real struggle is only you need to wake up earlier before anyone to prepare breakfast for the family. When everyone has gone to job and school you have plenty of time to do so many things you want. For a mom who still has a baby, she can still go for walk with her baby or just sit in front tv while having breakfast. Enjoying the time with the little one on the comfy couch in the morning while having breakfast is one of my favorite things.



Less makeup throughout the day

For some people using makeup at home is a common thing to do. When you are being a stay-at-home you will definitely do some “homework” that will make you sweat, that is why it is better to use less makeup if you choose to be a stay-at-home mom. By using less makeup it means less cha-ching to spend. LOL

Sometimes get stressed

As I mention earlier become a stay-at-home mom is fun, but there will be some bad news too. Get stressed is one of them. Being stay-at-home mom sometimes makes us overwhelmed with all of the things going on in the house and all of those things would only be known by us. You have to take care of the kitchen, make sure you do laundry, and keep the house clean. There will be a point where we just give up to be stay-at-home mom and want to go to the beach. Yes or yes?

you are the core of your family

As a stay-at-home mom is not a shame. Yes, we are not a career woman who has a lot of time working outside, but who said stay-at-home mom cannot have a career? Some of the stay-at-home mom these days they are working from home, which means they get the salary plus nonstop family time, what a wonderful life. When you are not around your family will feel something is not complete. you are the core of your family, without you, they will feel empty.

There are absolutely still so many feelings to be a stay-at-home mom, from the stressful one to be the happiest one, but these are commonly happening with a stay-at-home mom. For you who plan to be one, don’t be worried, it will be just fine. Some women are worry because the income will only come from the husband, but don’t make it as the reason because nowadays you can get income from home like making videos, blogs, or selling craft. Hopefully, you enjoyed this post and get inspired.




Constipation is tough for the parents and the baby, it makes the family worried what is actually going on to their baby. Baby’s digestion is not as mature as their parents, so some babies might have difficulty to pass the bowel movement yet some babies just absorb everything into their body so there is nothing to go out from her digestion. Some of the breastfeeding babies have no poo for days and it can be the babies absorb all the nutrient in breast milk and have the waste only in their pee. So as stay-at-home mom who work alone to take care of my baby without anyone in home, I have some ways to do when my baby get constipated. Let’s get into it.

1. Check the baby wet diaper

First thing I do to make sure she is okay is checking her wet diaper. When it is always full, in good color and enough change a day. Checking her wet diaper also make me sure she is not dehydrate. She might not get constipated but she just need some more time to make bowel movement.

2. Massage her belly and her back

Photo by: The Healing Garden Me UK

The second thing I would do when my baby get constipated is to massage her belly and her back by using baby oil. Gently massage the belly using circular motion from the left to the right to gimmick the movement inside her belly and helping the faces go out easier.

Massage her back from upper to lower side, it can make the baby relax. Remember to massage gently, never put too much pressure as it can hurt the baby. Sometime you will heard the baby fart when you massage her belly and that means something good is going on. Keep the timing when massaging her, for example, massage her for 10 minutes and repeated every hour.

3. Bend her knee on her stomach and put gentle pressure

After you massage her belly then bend her knee and put on top her stomach then gently press it. This way to gimmick her urge to poop, when the urge come than she will be naturally push the faces out.

4. Give her fruit juice or smoothie

Basically giving her juice help her to poop, it is not only prune or apple, mango also work on her. She likes mango smoothie, so I gave her more mango smoothie and it works plus it is natural. Water also help to get rid of constipation because the feces need liquid to go through the colon, but the colon keep absorbing the liquid form feces, so we need even more liquid to get it through.

5. Change the formula milk or the solid food

Some baby can’t fit into some brands of formula or some kind of foods that make them hard to digest. In the formula case, many parents didn’t put enough water into the milk making the milk thicker and that can cause the feces hard to digest. In the solid food case, for some baby that are new to solid food they can have constipation because there is a new thing come into their digestion and need to make adjustment. Make sure to give baby kind of thicker-but-still-liquidy solid food so the baby won’t be shocked and refuse to eat that.

6. Ask the doctor

When everything we do but nothing work and we start to worry because the baby is not getting poop for more than 3 days then we need to ask doctor or pediatrician what should we do next. Some of the pediatrician will give you something like pill to put inside the baby butt and make it work. Fortunately I never use this and thankfully we go through everything with natural remedies. But some pediatrician also will recommend to use something like her temperature to put into the baby’s butt to push the baby’s bowel movement.

Baby get constipated might occurred because of the mommy’s diet too, but this is just for breastfeeding baby. Once a while cross check what we have eaten is good so we can treat the cause of constipation even more easier.

Every baby is different, these are things I and my husband did if my daughter get constipation. Sometimes the constipation gone and sometimes it will be back and once we know the way to treat it we have no worry anymore. Keep asking the pediatrician about something you might be hesitated. It will be more safer. So what is your secret remedy to cure the little one constipation?

Let me guess, you walk to the class and someone just talking to you like they wanna roast you and you don’t even know what is your wrong. So you have in your mind that might be she/he is hating you because of your look. No way! Bullies hate whatever of you.

Bullies are some people who always wanna make you down and wanna make you belief that you are less compare to other. They will hate every second in your life and makes you regret on everything you chose. In this post I will share you 4 ways to deal with bullies, cause I’ve been there. Let’s jump into it!

1. Never ever feel sad

You are the most gorgeous person in the world, that’s why you have some people who always wanna see you in tears and depression. The bullies hate you because they can’t have what you have right now. Keep going on with your beautiful life, the rude comment and dislike is just part of social media don’t take it in your precious heart.

2. Listen but don’t get involved

You are what you are, this is your life. That’s true, but sometime you need to listen what people say about you. Just listen them and after that you decide is that worth it to be what they want or it just their feeling that we are not as common as other people. Never get involved of their wave because society just want something that followed what they want.

3. Speak up

When someone do bad things to you or we can say they bullied you, don’t save it alone in you mind, but share it. You have to tell your guardian (parents or someone you trust that can help you) about your problem. The sooner you tell them then you will never have to sink to the bottom of depression.

4. Literary just walk away

Bullies are bad, so never ever get closer to bullies. You walk away is because you don’t wanna get the negative impact from them and not because you scared, if they are chasing you, go to the safest place you know will help you out. When speak is no longer effective to stop bullies then you need to just ignore them by walk away from them. There are lots of people still wanna be your friends, partners, colleague (you name it), rather than you exhausted to keep all the bullies in your mind and trying hard how can they “accept” me. At some points after they bullied you, they will be tired of doing that to you because you are not get angry or depressed instead you ignore them and walk away from them.

No body is perfect in this world, everyone has their own weakness and that is common to have, it is not a big issue to have weaknesses. For you who had some experience of bullies you are the actual superior person because you can through the big wave and still having the best boat for your life. I was there in the same situation with you gangs. Bullies will never end as long as you get what they want which is your beautiful life.

As a human being we born we bring only our body. The only first thing we need is breath rather than cloth, sometimes even the nurse let us nude on top of mom’s body to feel each other in deep emotion. As we grow up we realize we need things that actually we just want it to make us more “visible” to other. How simple life is. Don’t you think become more simple is better? Like legend said “less is more”. So why we want something we don’t even need? In this post I want to share you some of reflections of our self and why I talk about minimalist? Let’s get started.

Why do we like to pile up things that is not necessary?

It is simply because of our brain designed to love new things. We always want to have new cloth every time we go to mall, even we have a bunch of clothes in our cupboard until it’s not enough anymore. Days in a week only seven, but you have cloth enough for 3 people in a year. Let’s think again how much money we wasted. We could have save that money to travel and see the world rather than buy things that will ended up untouched.

Need vs Want

Sometimes we have some stuffs because we want it without thinking the next step what is the use of it. Our “need” vs our “want” is complicated, thanks for urban life which is always bombarded with advertisement that is showing how easy life with some tools, basically if we see again we don’t really need it. We buy grocery food freshly from market, and we also going out for lunch because we are lazy to cook, this is why “need” and “want” is complicated.

The Power Of Minimalism

Minimalism is not only for your stuff in your cupboard, but it is also for your life. Minimalism can bring you to be an easy going person. For example, you no longer need to be stressed out just for going out and think what should you wear and make people eyes happy to see you instead you will think more about what you feel, if it makes you feel more comfort than you go with it. The more you go being minimalist the more you learn how to be a thankful and respect person.

Minimalism is easy

The very first step you can do is to take a note of things you have and things you wanna declutter. Then you can try to reduce your expenses in something unnecessary like “the third pair of shoes for this month”, it is helping a lot. You can also start by giving some of your item that is not being used in a year to someone that needed more. Start to be minimalist from things you are ready to get rid of, but if you try it in sudden nothing will work.

Don’t be too strict to your self if it is hard for you. Being minimalist doesn’t mean you have nothing at all. Being minimalist is the lifestyle you choose to make you happier and less stress. And also being minimalist is different with cheapskate where you don’t wanna spent much of anything because of money, but being minimalist is the way you simplify your lifestyle that can manage your productivity, your emotion and also ease your life.

When it come to personal things some people choose to hide it but some people will share it because it’s fun to share who we are, and if we have the same thing there we will realize how life is not stuck just in front of your eyes.

Here I share you 15 facts about me. Let’s get started.

  1. I am the eldest sibling from two children
  2. My husband is an Indian
  3. I have one little cute daughter who always hanging on me and I can’t say no
  4. I am a stay-at-home mom who has a lot of space time
  5. I am a breastfeeding mom
  6. I do not like smoker because they bring toxic everywhere
  7. I feel disgusted so easy for things that is public-touchable
  8. I was drowning in the very first time visited the swimming pool, I thought it was just like bath tub, luckily I’m survived
  9. I can easily get anxiety on something that is not in order, like when I drove I found my finger has dry skin that need to be gone, so I stopped my vehicle beside the road just to pull that skin off then I can calm down and continue my ride.
  10. I better buy cheap cloth rather than expensive brand one because it just a cloth
  11. I like to eat my mom’s home made food, once I back to my mom home she will always cook spicy fish soup for me. Sluuurrrp.
  12. I don’t like politic but i like cat
  13. Sometimes I got impatient in waiting, that makes me leave even I’m still in the conversation
  14. I have fierce face but actually I am a soft person just like bunny’s fur
  15. I love to eat meatball

There you go, 15 facts about me. Hopefully it’s fun to read. I have one thing before this post end, “be yourself, be positive”. Thank you.

“Blogger” for some people is not an interesting job, it is unprofessional and no income. Yeah that is from the people who doesn’t like keyboard-maybe. (LOL). Blogging seems unrecognized job before at least for me, I thought that blogging is only write things in the internet then people can take the advantages of our brain-work freely.

When I was in senior high school I join one of fiction-writing organizations. There they taught me how to write a short story until a book. It was so interesting for me because I like to write short story when I get bored in the class. I made around 3 novel but I kept it by myself because I have no confident to sell it. I saw some of my friends they can make it into a big book store but they use their own money, they are rich kid tho. That’s why I just kept all of my story inside my cupboard until I lost them all.

My dream as an writer is still going on until now, even I have some other desire to be but still need time to make it through. And then I knew that if become a book author somewhat difficult for me, there’s nothing to be difficult in blogging. I just need to put my idea there and people can see that and if they like it, it is a bonus for me. There are several other reason why I started to blog. You wanna know? Here they are:

I started to blog because I have lots of spare time

I am stay-at-home mom, after my daughter take a nap I used to feel confused what should I do next, when everything has been done. I will back again watch youtube or read someone blog, but that’s making me even more eager to do something else. 

I started to blog because I want some income that I get from my hard work

Before married I used to be an employee, I work 5 days a week and get my own income. I work behind the desk and having a nice job at that time. Even sometimes I used to feel bored with the job I had and just wanna be in home as a stay-at-home mom. After I got married we moved to US and I can’t work outside because of some administration rules I can’t pass, so what I think first is start the business from home that I capable without making me messed up other thing also I get the income for myself by myself. 

I started to blog because I want to express my passion Publicly

I have passion in photography but I want to be a good writer too, so why don’t I combine these things and become a blogger who can share positivity that cross in my mind. And hopefully can make my reader motivate by my words.

 

I started to blog because I like it

Do whatever you like as long as it is not harmful for you or other people. Blogging is not harmful for me, and my content is always informative which means I am not harming anyone. So what should I wait to start a blog.

As a blogger I learn a lot of things. I also start to read books more than before. I even more into positive mind rather than negative mind when deciding anyone behavior on me. And still a lot of benefit to be a blogger. So how about you guys? What is your passion? What makes you motivated everyday?

I like cat. Cat just part of my life, I always have cat in home, whether they come to home as stray cat or I have them since they born. Literary cat is just never stop being around me, Until the nightmare came to my hair and I had no idea if the cause of it is my cats. So sad.

Back then, I had some cats who still kitten but can already play running here and there. I used to sleep with them and that night I sleep with them as usual yet became unusual. That night I slept so deep till I couldn’t feel something wrong was happening on my hair. One of the kitten was peeing on my hair while I was sleeping and the worse thing is I didn’t wash it directly so the pee was soaked up into my hair overnight. Yap nightmare!

In the morning I wake up and still didn’t feel anything wrong on my hair because of my energy is not there yet. In Indonesia school start generally at 7 am so I have no time to recognize what was happening last night, what I knew I have to take shower and go to school. Don’t get me wrong I washed my hair in the morning. In the school I didn’t feel any wrong still, until evening when all of the family sat down watching tv. I finger-comb my hair and how shocked I was when I saw hair fall like I pull it off too hard. It was full on my hand. I keep comb it because I was scared what was happening to me. Then I talk to my parent and they had no idea what the heck is happening to me. I back to my bed and cry. When I cry and sleep laying down I smell something horrible on my pillow and bed sheet. And that was the pee and it must be the cat pee. I was directly think of my hair and relate all of the tragedy. I think I knew what was happening to me. Then I was going to bathroom to wash my hair again and it just making it worst. The hair fall on the floor make even more mess.

My hair was bald and I don’t know what to do. The next day my mom bought me fresh aloe vera leaves. I grab it and cut the edges and the skin off to get all the gel out.

I apply the gel on my scalp down to the tip of my hair. Sometimes my mom help me to apply it. I applied it every single day nonstop in the evening 1 hour before I took shower. What a surprise in a month I got my hair regrow perfectly.

Here how to use it:

  1. Cut the sharp edges of the aloe vera leaf. BE CAREFUL
  2. Cut the aloe vera leaf to small part, so it’s easy to hold. I used to cut it around 2 inches.
  3. Slice one of the skin off so you will be exposed the gooey transparent gel.
  4. Slice the transparent gel (like a #) so you will have even more slimy gel coming out.
  5. Directly rub onto your scalp. Please be gentle.
  6. Leave it for about 1 hour and cover it with thin towel. I don’t recommend using shower cap because it has no air flow and causing the hair warm up.
  7. Rinse with COLD water or wash with shampoo and rinse with COLD water.
  8. Air dry.

How much aloe vera gel should be used is depend on your problem area. You might need more than 1 leaves to cover all over your scalp. The time to see the result might be different.

Aloe vera is a great thing that always help me take care of my body problem. I didn’t believe it can worked. The key is routine to use it and we will see the result without we realize it.

I recommend you guys to try aloe vera to treat your bald hair. But don’t be afraid to ask doctor that might help you with more accuracy. Thank you for visiting my blog, hope you enjoy and get inspired.

I am a stay-at-home mom and I have one little cute daughter that will always hanging on me because I carry her food everywhere I go. As a stay-at-home mom I got plenty of time I can spend with my baby in home without limit and this is one of the reasons why I chose to breastfeed my daughter instead of using formula.

Choosing to breastfeed my daughter, it bring me to things I never expected before. First of all my daughter born in the US and I live only with my husband in the apartment, we have no family just friends close by, so having help is a rare thing I get because my husband will be working full time and going home after 6pm. Almost everything I do by my own and I am also breastfeed my baby directly without pump. I did pumping but it just for several weeks until my daughter refuse the bottle and just wanna have my breast all the way. Because of these all I have 7 unpredictable things I learn in my breastfeeding journey that I want you to know so then you have some base to breastfeed your lovely babies.

1. I almost frustrated in the first hours after gave birth because of  breastfeeding

In the first hours after gave birth nurse will give the baby and put on our breast so then the baby will choose her/his way to reach the milk for the first time in their lives. I was too scared to move my baby because her neck just so weak, I never touch newborn before because I’m scared the baby will break in my hand (LOL). After first try she can’t do it and the nurse bring her back into babies room and they bring me into staying room. Then again they give me the baby but this time I hold my baby and try to latch on my breast directly and again failed. I was so afraid my baby couldn’t get any nutrient in her first hours. So I decided to give her formula, I was so sad that time and I almost wanna stop trying to breastfeed and just give the formula. Then again the third time nurse brought the baby to me and try again to latch, magically she latch on me and I can feel the latch for the first time. I was so happy like anything. I feel I am her mom completely. I and the baby need to practice this new experience and it is not instant.

2. Breastmilk-pump is so painful when you don’t know how to use it

In the hospital they gave me a breastmilk-pump machine and I can use whenever I want. This machine is for public use, so every mom that try to breastfeed have been using it before. The nurse was just explained me how to put the cup on and turn the machine on/off. I never known the setting for weak and strong pumping ever. I didn’t do any research too for this product because I thought I won’t need this.

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When I pump for the first time I feel so pain on my breast because the pump in the highest setting ever. So the suction is too much I felt like my nipple gonna break. I tried to make the suction low but it wasn’t working, then I knew the knob is loose. I must had ask that to the nurse but I always forget whenever they come to my room.

3. Breastfeeding hurt my back in the beginning of practice

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I have only nurse who help me figured out how to breastfeeding a baby since I have no one in the US to teach me in home. So when I back from hospital and everything seem so hard to do. I couldn’t do the laying side style to breastfeeding my baby until she was around 6 months old so I should sit on my bed and leaning to the wall. In the first 5 minutes there is nothing I feel but then my shoulder starting to hurt and my back too. I saw a product name breastfriend pillow and a lot of mamma use this.

It worked well just a week for me, after that I never used it again because it require me to snap on/off the pillow and I just lazy to that in the midnight feeding. So I sold it out. The Regular pillow helped me more.

4. The leaking is real y’all

I never taken this confession is real but yes it is. I was standing behind my window to get sun shade and sunbath my baby because she has jaundice which can heal faster if we sunbath her at least under sun shade. Just because I stand up and wore no bra the milk was leaking like tap water. My dress was like I spilled a cup of water and it was dripping to my feet too, so all over my body from breast to toe is wet of my milk (LOL). Since then I bought breast pad.

5. Breast feel hard and full every morning

The milk is keep producing while we are sleeping, so in the morning it’s all collected and making it hard and pain. I have to nurse her before I started the day or it will be like stone-hard and causing even more pain. If I get the hardness in my breast I will massage it clockwise using oil or when I take a shower, the hardness can decrease and the pain also relieve.

6. I thought I’m gonna lose weight while breastfeeding

The truth is NO! I’m gaining even more than my before pregnancy weight. Breastfeeding makes me hungry, maybe because my body need calorie to produce the milk. At the end of the day I never regret gaining weight cause I can workout later to lose the weight but the chance to give my baby the best nutrient from breastmilk will not come twice.

7. I have to deal with time

I was rely on pump for the first couple of weeks until my daughter refuse to use bottle, no pumping after that, she just wanna have milk directly from my breast. This made me stuck at least for an hour on the bed and can’t do anything until she is done and sleep. I have no one to watch her if I wanna do something and she still awake, so want or not I have to make sure sleep before I do my stuff.

These are my experiences that I never expected to be happened. I wish I was having my mom to help me so I have someone to guide me to take care of my baby and I can take my time to do my stuff too. If you are planning to have breastmilk instead of formula, I suggest you to be more patient. Both you and the baby need to learn how to do this kind of thing. Don’t think that once the baby out then she/he can latch directly. It needs some practice. So are you ready for breastfeeding your cute little baby?

Headset   

Songs  

Cup of coffee 

Cozy pillows 

Okay I’m ready to start my story. Just for you gangs!

This time it’s all about my bad memory which is about bully, so here is my story.

First of all, I am the first kid in family and also the first grand-daughter in my mom’s family. I grown up closer to my mom’s family. So I got a lot of their attention. Because of that I got much food too, making me a big kid around my friends. It was not a big problem, as a kid when you higher and bigger they will play under your command. LOL.

I grew up as an active girl. I have ton of activity a day. From 7am school start and ended up 8pm after my additional course. Coming home at 9pm and already tired. I just wanna sleep. I used to sleep right after I get home, forget about washing my face. I keep doing this bad routine until one day my face gave up and having all those problem, from blackhead, acne, and acne scars. These problems made my face unpleasant to see and people around me (except my family) starting to feel disgusting and walk away from me whenever I come join the conversation. Some people who knew me in the first time they must be seeing me like I’am alien and need to be banished.

From then I got many problems not only from my skin but also from my society. Most of people will not be pointed at me directly, they will just talk behind me. Sometimes I heard they talked about me using my name whispering (they thought) but I could hear that and I never come to them and ask why. I just let it go because they are none of my business.

I remember one of my classmate said “who is the one has islands in her face?” and they all laugh at me. This happen when I was in mid school. First grade. Island they meant by acne I have. I didn’t have much that time but they are visible and compare to other students I have lots.

When I was In high school my acne getting even worse because of stress in studying and the activity I have even more from school I have drum school then I go running and in the evening having course to do my homework. In high school most of the girl they become more mature and use cosmetic to school like lipstick, eyeliner etc. I was have no interest with it and also my skin is in problematic phrase so I don’t want to use it in the long period like school which is from 7am till 4pm.

Some girls in high school make fun of me, like every time any one talk to me especially boy they will yell like I am gonna have intimate time in the class even I was just talking about eraser that I bought for over 2 years and still have a lot. Those girls will yell like monkey seeing ghosts. I answer them rather than silent. One of those girl said to me “hey you gonna have fun with him?” while laughing with her gangs, and I said “Who you? you wanna have fun with boys? Go get some fun rather than interfering someone’s life”. That time they shook their head and silent while some of my classmates also remind silent but seeing each other like hey she respond it.

After my high school done, I went into college and because my activity just not as much as before I started to gain weight. Again another problem LOL.

In college most of them came from villages so they stayed in dorm room or rent house with some of their village friends. One day I wanted to stay like them in dorm room or rent house without parents and just friends, because I want to know the feeling. In my mind it must be so fun and I can go everywhere till late night without permission. So I ask one of my classmate who offer her house to be like a dorm room. I said “hey can I stay in your house too?”. FYI my financial is not bad that time I have more than enough to rent a house for me alone but because of that “thought” I wanted to stay with them. I was shocked and immediately regret my decision for asking about that offer. She answered my question with “really?! you will be break my ceiling if you stay in my home”. Seriously?! I am not as big as an elephant. I know I am fat but is that your way to say NO to someone?. 

Most of the bully I got is verbally which is break my heart. Why some people can’t be just normal if they seeing someone with the difference? Do we have to be always polished whenever we talk to other people just to make their eyes having good sight? Why don’t we accept the difference? Why don’t we think what is the story behind them wearing it? behind them having it? Why do we feel so easy to judge people by their appearance? Why does bully so easy to do?

After I got married, I more concern to take care of my own business rather than stalking someone’s life and make fun of it.

For you gangs who have the same experience as me or even worse, take an action. When they start to bully you, please don’t be silent. Do something. If you too scared to have an action in the time they did it to you just tell everything to your parents or someone you trust can protect you. Those people won’t be big if we didn’t let them big.

Please never ever get depress of this kind of situation, we are allowed to feel the sadness and angry but it doesn’t mean we have to lose from them. This is our life not theirs, so don’t let those scum ruin your beautiful life.

 

 

LDR or Long Distance Relationship is not an odd thing anymore around the society. Thanks to internet. I and my husband were in the same field before, Yap I was in Indonesia and he was in India. My husband is Indian. We connect each other by using skype everyday for around 4 years until we decided to get married and stay in US until now. Being as LDR couple is not easy, there were lots of challenges to break us apart. Fortunately we could through all those things and arrive in this stage now. So for you that just started in LDR, these are 5 things LDR couple need to know.

  1. 1. Being in LDR means you have to be in the strong commitment

Being in LDR is not easy both of you have to commit that you are not single but you will be alone everywhere you go. You will see some couple are hugging and holding hands in front of you while you just holding your mobile and feeling jealous. This is why you must have strong commitment, if you get the temptation to do so but you are alone just remember the karma. You don’t want your partner to cheat on you right? so don’t ever cheat on him/her ever. 

  1. 2. Being LDR means you are ready to sleep late at night

Sometimes the distance is just far and timing also so much different. When I was still in LDR with my husband we were different 1,5 hours. It wasn’t a big deal until my husband move to US couple months before we get married. The time is 12 hours different, so when it is 1 am in Indonesia there in US will be 1 pm. When the time for me to sleep and he just started the day. It was so tough in the beginning to adjust but by the time we got hang of it and we have no problem with it.

  1. 3. Be financial ready

 

So long distance relationship makes us missing each other more than regular couple who can meet every single day just in 10 minutes drive. Being in LDR you need to prepare for the financial. You need to arrange time and money when you want to meet your love. if your distance can reach 3 hours by car that fortunate for you because you won’t need as much money as flight ticket price. My husband flew from India to Indonesia took around $ 2000 for the first time. That was because he booked the flight directly to my city but if he was booked just to Jakarta and booked ticket separately to my city the price was only $ 800. What a ridiculous price, isn’t it?  However you have to be ready for paying the meet-up-family-food, gift, and so on.

  1. 4. Believe your partner

I used to angry and distrust my husband in the first month our relation because I never be in long distance relationship. I was so afraid if he cheat on me or do other things that will break us apart. But those are silly. If you put the relation in that condition trust me it won’t work. The more you distrust your partner the harder your relation will be. So it is important for both of you to trust each other and keep in your mind this relation is not a joke. This relation is for you and me not just you or not just me. When you both trusting each other never break that trust.

  1. 5. Don’t forget to pray everyday

Whatever your religion is, for me praying is a must. Take your time to talk to the almighty about your feeling and pray that he/she will be yours until the end of your life. When the almighty say yes there’s nothing to worry about anymore.

Those are 5 things LDR couple need to know and all are basic for you to have long last relationship. Remember your relationship is different with other so don’t ever compare it because it will lead you to jealousy and heart attack (LoL). It is better to respect each other in the relationship whether it’s in distance or not. Hope you get the inspiration from my post. Thank you for visiting.